Doing me

After a whirl wind of a few months, I have started to “do me”.

After getting out of a relationship and distancing myself from people who I thought would be there, I thought I was doing what was best at the time such as going on dates. It took me a while to realise I am so not ready for commitment. Right now, what is best is to just focus and do me.

I have told you how I got to this point of doing me. However, you may ask yourself how I am doing this? Working part time alongside working at placement, made me realise that work was one thing going well for me. Focusing my energy on making my time at placement count and meeting new people in new environments (plus earning my hard-worked money) is something that I very much enjoy.

The whole purpose of “doing me” is to do things that make me feel happy. I decided on New Year’s Eve in 2018 that I would start a Polaroid Project. This project would be of photos that has made my day or have made me feel happy. I have been taking Polaroids for a good 2 years of people I have met as well as adventures I have been on throughout university. All these polaroids have been made into a university scrapbook where I could look back at all the memories. The same concept is applied to this project. Making use of the new camera I got; developing my skill by taking Polaroids would be something I would very much like to achieve at the end of the year and maybe future years to come.

I have also started to take care of myself. Doing what is best for me, whether that means having the occasional bubble bath while watching some Netflix or reading a good book (reading is something I am trying to get more into this year), even organising what I am doing everyday by writing plans in a diary. I feel that getting my head on straight a little, would help me achieve my full potential.

Doing what is best for me also means making good decisions which would help benefit my emotional, physical and spiritual health. Normally whenever I make decisions, I think about the “now me” and not about the “future me”. Decisions which have a huge effect on my emotions or behaviour, is something that I am working on. If something makes me deeply upset, what can I do to make me feel better? What is my conscience/ gut saying I should do? Would it lead me to being happier after?

During those few hard months, realising with what makes me feel happy has helped in the long term. Take the time to figure out what it is for you. I have found that by talking to people and feeling my emotions is a way to let everything out. If you find people who listen to how you feel and give good advice, treasure them. You do not come across a lot of people like that. Know how to make good decisions that helps benefit your health, for yourself now and the future. One last tip: do whatever you want to do in order to make yourself feel happy. You only have one life. Make it count 😊

Jasmine N Cannon-Ikurusi