5 THINGS I’VE LEARNT THROUGHOUT MY LIFE
I’M AN INFLUENCE TO OTHERS
Growing up, I never really thought much about my influence on others. I don’t remember anyone telling me to be a good influence. I was already a good child (I always tell my parents that they were blessed with an Angel, big facts.)
When I was younger, there was a particular song that I would always sing in church. One Sunday, a little girl from my church was called to sing and…she chose MY SONG! Okay, I didn’t write the song but I claimed it. So my first thought was “Why is she copying me?” She even tried to copy my style of singing. But my annoyance quickly changed to happiness, I began to smile because it clicked to me. I was an influence to her!
People are watching me, people are watching you! It’s so important to be aware of your influence on others.
2. CONFRONTATION IS NEEDED SOMETIMES
There are many people who don’t like confrontation, I was one of them. So when people did things to upset me, I would just ignore them and become more and more bitter towards them. I remember one time I held a grudge towards someone for so long that I even forgot why I was angry. I just knew that I was angry for a good reason, so I remained angry. These times, the person was just out there living their best life, oblivious to the way I was feeling. Bitterness is not healthy. If I have an issue with someone now, I have no problem with confronting them. I’d rather confront people and get peace of mind than to keep things to myself and become angry and bitter.
3. I CAN’T TRUST EVERYONE
When you’re young it’s easy to be naive and trust everyone. I made that mistake in the past and it’s kind of the reason why I’m more reserved now. If I had a problem, I would tell so many people about it. If I liked a guy or had problems with a guy, I would tell everyone about it. I would trust people to keep things between us. I learnt that I can’t trust everyone. Now that I’m older, I’m better at judging a person’s character and I’m very selective about who I choose to open up to.
4. PEOPLE ARE JUST PEOPLE
“People are just people”. My dad used to say this to me all the time because I had a fear of public speaking, performances, confrontation etc. What it means is that, there is no need to be afraid. It’s not like I’m facing wild animals who will eat me up. He encouraged me to speak up and be confident in front of people.
One of my favourite scriptures is 2nd Timothy 1:7 which says “God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
5. EMBRACING MY AUTHENTIC SELF
I’m still in my process of embracing my authentic self. There are times where I see other young women and I feel insecure about myself. I’m just being real. I’ll see women with beautiful makeup, amazing eyebrows, fashionable clothes, big personalities etc. and I feel less attractive. I’m learning to embrace my authentic self, flaws and all. When I look in the mirror, I see a beautiful woman. I’m a natural beauty, don’t need no makeup to be a cutie! I’m beautiful on the inside and out. I Love ME!